10 Myths on Arab Women
At the point of intersection, between the Arab experience and the American experience, you will find me. I have struggled between rejecting the stereotypes of Arab womanhood in the United States popular culture, as well as criticized the status of women in the Middle East, Islam and the Arab world. In many ways, I saw the two struggles as inherently opposing – are these perceptions of Arab and Muslim women in the U.S. popular culture stereotypes, or are the perceptions rooted from the past feminist work of Arab women in America? The response to the stereotypes from the Western feminist movement has been in good intention, to help improve the status of women in developing countries. But are they perpetuating stereotypes, or helping dissolve them?
In the truly perplexed form that my biculturalism thrives, I pondered how I could believe two such seemingly opposing views.
But as I continued to research the history of Arab feminism and the representation of Arab womanhood in the United States from relevant writers such as Amira Jarmakani, Sherin Saadallah and Susan Muaddi Darraj, I learned that these two views are not inherently opposing. However, the context that maintains the silencing of Arab and Muslim women in the U.S. has created imagery so pervasive, that even the Arab American feminist has been subjected to defining these stereotypes, as well as deconstructing them to correct the misinformed U.S. perspective. In other words, pervasive imagery of the oppressed veiled woman and other stereotypes (i.e. the terrorist) has confused and simplified the Arab American feminist movement.
Therefore, the Arab American feminist movement has been reduced and redirected to defining stereotypes, rather than engaging in a larger feminist discourse that examines the reality of Arab womanhood and the possibilities for our future.
Either they [the Arab feminist] are relegated to the silencing image of the veil, or they are kept busy engaging with, and working to correct, popular U.S. misunderstandings of Arab womanhood… The continuous need to identify and deconstruct stereotypical images of Arab womanhood functions as a double silencing of Arab American feminists whose energy could be better spent theorizing new spaces of possibility for Arab American women rather than responding to the misinformation promulgated by the dominant discourse.
- Amira Jarmakani in “Gender, Nation & Belonging: Arab and Arab American Feminist Perspectives”
To honor the need to identify and define myths, I would like to provide a short summary of stereotypes about Arab and Arab American women, so that in the future I may reference this article instead of consistently distract my analysis on pointing out stereotypes . Some of these stereotypes relate to Arab men too, so I also have a parallel goal to dispel myths on the whole community whenever possible.
10 Myths on Arab Women in the U.S.
1. “All Arab’s are Muslim”
Well, not exactly. Arabs are composed of Shia and Sunni Muslims, Christians, Jewish, Druze, atheist, Zoroastrian, Greek Catholic, Greek Orthodox, Agnostic… and many more. Just google it, if you don’t believe me.
2. “All Muslims are Arab”
An Arab is one who originates, has ancestral roots or identifies as Arab that lives in the Middle East (sorry for my pathetic definition, but you get what I am saying). In light of that definition, and that not all Arab’s are Muslims – it is interesting that the most populous countries with Muslims are not in the Arab world. They are in Indonesia (with 196 million Muslims), India (with 133 million Muslims) and China (with 133 million Muslims).
3. “All Arab women are short and dark-skinned”
I think anecdotal information is relevant here. I am 6’3″ and am fair-skinned, as well as 100% Arab. I have Arab friends and have seen Arabs who have blonde, black, brown and red hair. There are Arabs with very fair, pale skin as well as Arab’s that have dark brown skin, and all the shades in between. I have female family members taller than me, lighter and darker than me, with blue, brown and green eyes.
4. “There are no such thing as homosexual Arabs”
To be honest, I am still learning about the homosexual community in the Arab world. But I understand through my research that there are reference materials and analysis on homosexuals in the Arab world, such as “Food for Our Grandmothers: Writings by Arab American and Arab Canadian Feminists”.
5. “Arab women are less educated than other women in the U.S., and definitely less education than Arab men.”
It is difficult to find information on how many Arabs are Muslims and how many Muslims are Arab. What I can find is that there are approximately 3 million people who identify as Arab Americans, and 6 million people who identify as Muslims. This is an overlapping figure, in that “Most Arabs in America are not Muslim, and most Muslims are not Arabs.” (Brookings Institute) While I cannot find specific statistics on Arab female education in the United States, I am able to find information on Muslim women. I think the above myth I state is a mixed thought, since they may imagine or mean a Muslim woman when they refer to “Arab women” in the above statement. So I will present the only valid information I can find as it relates to this subject.
According to the Gallup Center for Muslim Studies, Muslim women are just as likely as Muslim men to hold college degrees in the United States.
After Jewish Americans, Muslim Americans are the most educated religious community studied. But Muslim women, unlike Jewish women, are statistically as likely as their male counterparts to say they have a college degree or higher education.
Another interesting fact: the Muslim American population has the highest degree of gender parity than any other religious group in America. In other words, Muslim women and men report similar household incomes regardless of the income bracket. In all other religious groups and in the general population, women make less than men.
6. “Arab women are victims to male oppression and patriarchy because their culture ‘monstrously oppresses’ women more than other women around the world.”
This is truly an over exaggeration, as it was originally part of the U.S. campaign to bolster the invasion of Afghanistan to “liberate Afghani women from the burka”. There is extensive research that identify male oppression and patriarchy as a perpetual issue for all women around the globe. It is in no way exclusively a cultural or religious phenomena in the Arab, Muslim or Islamic world.
7. “If women from that society get raped, they will be killed.”
I think that this myth is also intertwined and confused between the Arab population and the Muslim population. To set the record straight, according to the Sunni Hadith, the victim/survivor of rape is not blamed and the perpetrator of the crime should be sentenced to death under Sharia Law.
An honor killing, which is referenced inadvertently in the myth, is the murder of a family or clan member in which the victim is believed to have brought dishonor to the family. This is an issue that requires critical analysis and attention in the Middle East and the rest of the world. However, it is not mentioned in the Quran, and honor killings are a cultural practice that is not exclusive to the Muslim, Arab or Islamic world.
Any questions, please review this article on “Rape Law in Islamic Societies”.
UPDATE: (4 April, 2011) Because of some discussion in the “Comments” section of this article, I would like to clarify to the reader that the myths I am trying to point out are 1) Honor killings as a result of an Arab or Muslim female getting sexually abused is due to the barbarity of Islam. 2) That killing or punishing women after a sexual abuse or rape is exclusive to the Arab, Islamic and Muslim communities.
I am in no way insinuating that this is not an important issue that requires serious attention and I do believe honor killings in the name of religion, culture or family name is fundamentally a fucked up cultural practice that is not only inhumane and heinous, but also un-Islamic.
8. “Arab women are exotic, because they are belly dancers.”
This image of Arab women can be associated with the media and television representation, “in contexts as varied as the popular sitcom I Dream of Jeannie to a 2002 Camel cigarette advertising scheme entitled ‘exotic pleasures’” ( Jarmakani, Politics of Invisibility, page 133).
9. “There is no such thing as being a feminist, if you are 1 of 4 wives.”
I am exhausted with this list dispelling myths and stereotypes of Arab women, so I am going to keep this explanation short. I find this documentary by Lisa Ling, (yes it’s on the Oprah show, still legit if you look at the sources they use) to be very relevant and expose that this issue does not exclude the borders of the United States. The concept of 4 wives is explained in the Quran, and many restrictions and requirements are placed on the man. This is hardly a common arrangement in the Middle East. However, I do think it is a legitimate issue that also needs more attention and discussion – in terms of women’s legal and human rights in these marriages and the cultural implications that plague their relationships.
10. I invite you to contribute other stereotypes of Arab and Arab American females that you hear in the media or around you. I consider my list a good start.
Number 7. “If women from that society get raped, they will be killed.” is not a myth, as much as I’d like to pretend that it is. Theory and practice are two different things- yes, in theory the victims of rape should not be blamed, but in practice they are. By denying the reality, we give these sick men and leaders power and I refuse to do that. I wasn’t sure if you were referring to exclusively Arab societies, so I pulled a few articles as examples from both Arab/Muslim and other Muslim countries:
- http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/7098480.stm (http://www.hrw.org/en/news/2007/11/15/saudi-arabia-rape-victim-punished-speaking-out)
- http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/asia/the-afghan-women-jailed-for-being-victims-of-rape-900658.html
- http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/middle_east/8631775.stm (I know they are not Arabs, but they are Muslim leaders)
- http://www.huffingtonpost.com/shirin-sadeghi/the-rape-of-taraneh-priso_b_233063.html
I think the myth is that all women will be killed. I do refer exclusively to Arabs in America, and I do not think Muslim and Arab are interchangeable terms. I think honor killings are an issue, very seriously – but they are not exclusive to Arab societies. Actually in Arab and Muslim societies in America, there are support groups in mosques for survivors, as well as other resources. I am just trying to open the subject to the possibility of critical Analysis of the real issue, instead of relying on generalizations. That’s all. I hope that clarifies the spirit of my message. Thank you.
Brilliant and highly esteemed usage of the F-bomb.
So very thankful for your humility, vulnerability, exposure, honesty and strength.
As a non-Arab, I would interject that my thoughts, myth or no myth, regardless of what is cultural or no – the choice really lies within, will we love? Women like you who kindly, brashly, overtly, authentically, cause us to make a choice to…love, to see beyond ourselves. I remember being in Albania in the 90′s after running out of money, a train strike and pure desperation lead me to a Muslim family who just took me in. They were poor, in need, in pain over the state of their society and yet still, they hovered over me with hospitality that still has never been reached by another. I remember being tempted, with all of my thoughts about Muslim women, to feel sorry for they who served, cared for and were strength to me – but I couldn’t. Because well, if I just had half of what they had, this confidence, clearly defined understanding as to their role, strong pursuit to care for a stranger – I would have been a Saint.
I’m not really sure this input implies directly to much of this beautiful conversation – maybe indirectly – thus I share.
Peace – lisa
I guess I got confused- I realized you were writing a lot of the myths on Arabs in America, but I have never heard that myth in particular about Arabs outside of the Middle East so I assumed you meant “that society” as the Middle East. I am glad you are opening all of the above topics to critical analysis, but within critical analysis we can go even further and that is what I am trying to do because in terms of Arab women being punished for stupid things, I believe the real issue is not in America, I believe the real issue lies in the Middle East where this is a pressing human rights issue we read about in the news every other day.
I think I also got mixed up because in parts of this article you do kind of use Arabs and Muslims interchangeably- like in the 5th point you do that. I don’t mean to criticize to be rude, I just also want this to be a discussion, and I want to help point out areas that I think could be strengthened if this is a topic you wish to explore further.
I think it is brave of you to bring up these stereotypes, and I know that many people will have strong feelings about them one way or another so it will be difficult for this to NOT be a discussion.
Yes I agree with your points Safa. Just to clarify, in point number 5 I could not find anything regarding Arab females educational status in the US. I stated that maybe the myth is rooted from someone who might mean Muslims, but because they believe in Myth 1 and 2, say “Arabs”. So in part, I am obligated to dispel the myth on Muslim women. But I dont mean it interchangeably, I just wanted to present information on both Arab and Muslim women, since they myth might be rooted in a mix up between the two groups of people.. Thanks for your comments and I appreciate what you are contributing to this article with value-added information and getting deeper into the subjects than my article does.
Actually, if you suggest I completely remove that myth because it is completely unclear, then let me know. I am re-reading it and I would like to rewrite it to clarify so other readers dont misunderstand my point. But I dont want to rewrite it and make your comment look irrelevant. So please let me know your thought on that. Thanks!
I just want to add to the discussion, not dissect your intentions.
1. “All Arab’s are Muslim”
I am very interested in non-Sunni Arabs and their status in the Middle East.
It’s true, in the US the majority of Arabs are Christians; according to the Arab American Institute only 24% are Muslim. Shannon Elizabeth and Ralph Nader are Arab Americans, but they are very different from the majority of Arabs in the world. In the Arab Middle East, Muslims form the majority in every single country, including Lebanon. In many Muslim countries Christians are treated like second-class citizens and have little recourse when sectarian violence affects them. The Muslim Brotherhood recently proposed a new law that would ban any non-Muslim from running for president in Egypt. In Pakistan, the Minority Affairs minister (who was Christian) was assassinated for his opposition to a blasphemy law that targeted anyone criticizes the prophet, no law exists for insulting Christian figures. In some countries treatment is better, but the treatment of religious minorities is Muslim countries is often a casualty of Political Correctness among liberal-minded people.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persecution_of_Copts
4. “There are no such thing as homosexual Arabs”
There was an article on Acid Bar in Beirut; the article said that LGBT people from all over the Middle East would go there because it was the only place where it was tolerated. Homosexuality is widely viewed as illegal in Islam and prominent scholars like Sheikh ul-Islam, Imam Malik, and Imam Shafi as immoral and punishable by death. I was unable to find a single Islamic scholar who doesn’t find homosexuality to be at least immoral, do you know of any? Islam and Christianity don’t seem to have positive views on homosexuality. How can you criticize this characterization of Islam when the majority of Islamic scholars are very clear about their opposition to homosexuality?
you seem to use Muslim and Arab in your criticism of these stereotypes so it only makes sense to respond to both.
When I was a christian I was initially homophobic myself, I thought that the bible didn’t leave any room for alternative lifestyles and I was okay with that. When I started to meet LGBT people I tried to reconcile the bible’s intolerance with my sympathy for those people. I found resources that tried to articulate the bible’s stance on homosexuality, with some success. One argument is that the bible only mentions male homosexuality because people at that time had a primitive understanding of birth control; they thought that men carried full zygotes and women were just the “incubators.” the argument followed that they opposed male homosexuality because it involved killing babies and therefore the bible doesn’t really oppose homosexuality at all.
The problem I ran into was that this interpretation of the bible might have worked for me, it didn’t for the vast majority of other christians. People at my church were vehemently opposed to homosexuality, one man became angry when Matt and I sang a Queen song, saying “Homosexuality is worse than a sin in the bible, its an abomination.”
Eventually, through a lot of other complicated shit that I don’t want to get into, I came to the conclusion that calling myself a Christian when I disagreed everyone else’s version of it was intellectually dishonest. I knew that I was just trying to avoid the parts of Christianity I didn’t like, but they weren’t minor verses, they represented a cultural conflict that is still taking place in America right now. If I just pretended to be a christian who just didn’t agree with the major parts of the bible I disagreed with, I was still picking a side by calling myself one. There is no such thing as a tolerant monotheistic religion, you cannot have one God and tolerate all the others. I chose to take a side. I chose not to associate myself with people who are intolerant of other religions and sexual minorities.
Hi Lee, Yes I see your intentions and I think you are adding value and insight to the conversation in ways that I could not. In regards to the myth I point out regarding Arabs not being homosexual – I was hoping to shed light to the reader that may be less educated about the Middle East that simply, there are homosexuals that are Arab. Communities try to hide it, ignore it, or hate it… but the truth is that it does exist and that there is some interesting analysis on the subject. I think you were rheotorically (sp?) asking whether or not I knew any Islamic leaders that were pro-homosexuality. I did want to respond and say that I am not arguing your point in my article, and I do not have an opposite view on that subject. The message was to create a baseline to the reader that homosexuality exists in the Arab community in America, as it does everywhere else. I think it is interesting your experience with Christianity, and I like when you say that “calling myself Christian when I disagreed everyone else’s version of it was intellectually dishonest”. I struggle with that currently, in that I am Muslim and I admit it is hard for me to hear homophobia in Muslim communities because I fundamentally disagree with that hateful language and discrimination. The very discrimination we fight against as Muslims in America.
As a topic that we can relate on, I am curious how you reconcile the less tolerant parts with your own views regarding homosexuality, as well as women’s inheritance and value in court cases? I’ve heard that they receive half the inheritance of a man and their testimony is half as valid as a mans.
Just as my opinion, I think that point should be removed if referring exclusively to Arabs in America. But at the same time, I feel like that topic should be discussed in some capacity. All of your points could get their own discussion because they are all such huge topics- ya know? Maybe you could post a revised version to the blog, or if you’d like even further explore specific points? I don’t think you should delete it altogether though…
Hi Safa, I just wanted to let you know that I updated #7 to help clarify some of the points you brought up. I dont want your comments to look irrelevant so I marked the update with a date stamp, and also referred to your points. Thank you for helping point out that the brevity of the statement left too much unsaid, and that I needed to be more specific about such a serious issue. I appreciate it!
Okay, so I re-read it again, and I think I make myself pretty clear that I think it is an issue but it is not exclusive to the Muslim, Arab and Islamic world. I also stated that I think the myth is rooted from the fact that the person is interchanging Arab and Muslim in their idea. I also am focusing this entire article on Arab women in the United States. That is 100% the focus of my assessment because I find that there is a lack of this in research. There is a lot of research on women in the Middle East but I think Arab womanhood in the United States is overlooked because we see these larger, and admittingly more pressing, human rights issues overseas. But I the intention of my blog is Arab American women. Because this is what I know, and this is what I can speak to. I dont feel qualified to speak so briefly about these issues on women in the Middle East. I think I am leaving the article as is for now, and hopefully the future reader can read your comments, Safa, and see that there is a lot more than my two paragraph explaination to entertain. Again, thanks for adding value to the article. I am really stoked you guys are commenting and providing sources that provide a more indepth analysis!!